Babies

I'm friends with X, have been since high school. He was with me in the movie club, was a nice guy, was our (and the school's, pretty much) token black guy. Thought of him today, went to look him up, his Facebook tells me he's doing more than the normal nonsense. He's an intelligent guy still, posts stories from Time and smart shtuffs. Scrolling down. He's in a relationship. Click her name. No picture, no info, but her address is "NamesMama." Oh. Strange. Is X shacking up with a girl with a kid? Back to his profile. Scroll down. How did I miss all the messages congratulating him on his new baby daughter?

I remember when I came back from Antioch and I complained about people from high school treating me like I was still in high school. Moved past that, but somehow I still have in my head that other people haven't changed a lot since then. I would stand by this hypothesis: Since high school, the majority of the people I knew will not have dramatically shifted their worldviews. Fair? But somehow I equate ideology solely with change, and I forget about babies and marriage and all those things. Is my refusal to conceptualize such things a function of my gaiety? Are they just not on my radar because I'm excluded from them? When something like this happens, I feel a galaxy apart from the person. See, beforehand, I was going to send X a message asking how he was doing, etc etc etc. Now I'm not. Why not? Because my assumption is that his having a child and a girlfriend will comprise most of his lifesummary, and I don't really care because I can't have either of those things and I don't want to hear about them as I've been forced to sit through their knowledge of their existence, and my exclusions from such, for 22 years. Fair?

To summarize:
(1) Facebook ruins lives.
(2) Straight people, stop having babies.